While we always hope that marriages stay strong and last forever, not all are meant to be. This can cause a myriad of problems, such as parents fighting for custody for their children.
Some might suggest alternating weeks, months, holidays, and so on to allow children to enjoy both their parent’s company and for parents to have time with their children. However, many factors can affect the final decision, such as distance between parents, the school the kids are attending, and so on.
If you’re trying to figure out possible arrangements to be made in regards to child custody, here are three to keep in mind:
1. Moving In and Out of the Children’s Home
One method not many think of is that the parents can move in and out, taking turns living with the kids. This comes with the fact that the children can survive on their own, having everything they need.
In this case, the home will usually be provided by either or both parents, agreeing to purchase or rent a home for the kids to live in. Of course, how often the parents come and visit the children will be up to the parents themselves. It could be alternated by days or even weeks.
The advantage of this kind of agreement is that the children can enjoy a sense of stability. It also helps eliminate many problems children can face if they’re the ones moving in and out of their parents’ homes, such as forgetting their toys or homework.
2. Alternating Weekends or Weeks
This is perhaps the most common arrangement in joint custody, and the name says it all.
In alternating weekends, children stay with one parent during the week and then move out on the weekends to stay with the other parent. However, it is good to note that this arrangement isn’t as popular as it is used to before. This can also cause the children to find out which parent is much more fun to live with, and which one has an awkward relationship with the kids.
In alternating weeks, it is a matter of moving the children in and out of each parent’s home every other week. While the children can benefit from equal time with each parent, there are a few factors to be fulfilled for this to work. For example, the parents must live close to each other to allow the kids to play with the same friends, go to the same school, and so on despite moving between parents.
Two-two-three is perhaps a more intricate and sophisticated arrangement. In practice, children stay with one parent on Monday and Tuesday, then move to the other for Wednesday and Thursday, then back to the first for the weekend, and start again with the other parent.
As you can tell, this might be chaotic and stressful for the kids depending on their age, always being on the move. This will only work if the parents are living extremely close to each other as well. Otherwise, travelling long distances will take a toll on the kids.
For child custody arrangements to be a success, thorough discussion, and a final agreement to a specific solution is vital. While it is essential to know the methods we’ve given you to help you earn a sense of what’s possible, you don’t have to stick to them. The solution you come up with will depend on what’s possible and what’s agreed to by your ex-partner, and you can use the above examples to help you create your own. With that said, you can still use what we’ve given you if you and your ex-partner so wishes. Just make sure that the kids are alright with it, and that they aren’t stressed out about constant moving.
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This article is intended to provide general information. You should obtain professional advice before you undertake any course of action.